Why Apologize Because You Think I’m Sexy?
Let’s Not Marginalize Disabled Women
It began with a message on a dating app in the usual, friendly way. We were trying to get to know each other. Through the course of the conversation, it came up that I have a minor disability from a long ago stroke.
It was here that he said he was sorry for thinking about me in a sexual way. First he just said he was sorry that happened. He wanted to meet, and in chatting, he said he was sorry he was thinking about me that way. In my experience, men will do that. I have to say I was initially confused about what it was about the fact I have a disability that made him feel bad about lusting after me. I imagine he felt sorry for me, but wouldn’t it be worse if men showed no interest because of the fact I am handicapped?
My response to this man was that I prefer to be treated the same as everyone else. He did not pursue meeting me. I didn’t bother carrying on the conversation.
I may have a limp and a cane to carry which limits my mobility, but that doesn’t mean I am not a sexual being. I imagine people may wonder about this, but I’m here to clarify that we shouldn’t assume.
Thank you for reading :)
