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We Became Pronouns to Each Other in That House
It became tricky as we introduced “new” family members
My husband and I spent weekends and holidays in the log home at the lake we built in 2001. We had good, quality family time there until 2015 when my husband co opted the house for his use when he decided we should separate. He moved in, but we figured out a way to share the house even if we are never there at the same time.
Usually, we alternate weekends at the lake. He will stay in our marital home where I live full time to visit with our two sons and I will stay at the cabin. We are both involved with new relationships. Spending time at the cabin with my boyfriend instead of my husband can present some awkward situations. I imagine my husband faces similar odd circumstances when he entertains his girlfriend there. It’s almost as if the house is haunted by the ghosts of the family that once was and exists only in fragments now.
My boyfriend has met my husband and likewise I have met his girlfriend. Everyone knows everyone’s name. Yet, I still find it unseemly to talk about my husband when I’m playing house with my boyfriend for the weekend. Especially since we are still legally married. I don’t want to give the impression there is any chance we might reconcile because I believe there isn’t. We are on good terms, but…
