This Is What It’s Like to Date a Luddite
We connected in the modern world of online dating. What I didn’t know at the time was that he didn’t have a computer at home or a smartphone. Shocking, but true. We sent messages back and forth on OKCupid. I said I would call him to talk and got his phone number. I forgot about it for a while, but eventually got through. It is a landline. I have one, too. I’m not super tech savvy, but I do have an iphone and use a few more features than simply calling and texting. He has an old flip phone. He goes online using computers in public libraries. Some of this lag in adopting technology is because of his limited financial resources.
He isn’t exactly a Luddite in the true sense of the term. It isn’t that he is opposed to new technology. The original Luddites were a group of late 19th century textile workers who destroyed machinery in protest for fear of losing their jobs to the new machines. I guess he is more of a slow adopter. He has an email address and is on Facebook. He found me on OKCupid.
Our relationship progressed in spite of not texting each other all the time, selfies (naked or otherwise) never showing up instantly on his cell phone but rather in his email, getting the occasional “busy signal” when calling him because he doesn’t pay the extra fee for call waiting or caller ID. This has been interesting because it is how things were once upon a time before we had all of these newfangled features. If someone was on the phone and you called them, you didn’t get through. Kind of makes sense if you think about it. They are talking to someone else so you have to call them back later.
I have not had relationships with men before who are not members of the cult of the iphone. I wasn’t sure how it would work. Then I remembered that men and women have been coupling up for millenia using varying kinds of technology or even none at all. Imagine that.
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