The Truth Shall Set You Free
I have a husband..and a boyfriend..and a disability.. Do you want to go out with me?
Those descriptors may not sound like the most attractive things to potential suitors, but they are all true. Yeah, I get it. Stay with me on this one.
I have turned a major, new leaf in my communications in my relationships where I will only tell the truth. Things on that list that I once assumed would be automatic deal breakers are now shown often and early in my interactions with anyone who may express an interest in meeting me. If someone doesn’t want to deal with my heavy baggage, then they are not a good match no matter what OKCupid says. The boyfriend is the only impermanent fact of my life on the list. I suppose I could get divorced from my husband, but that is not in the works at the moment. We are separated and live as if divorced, but we are not free to marry other people.
It is refreshing to not have to remember what I have said to people as in “Does he know I’m married?” If I’m putting it all on the table at the outset, I never have to remember the story.
There was a time when I felt it necessary to state in my online dating profile that I have a disability. This is a part of who I am, but not my whole story. Now, I include a photo of me at a horse show where I’m holding the cane I use to walk. As communication gets deeper, the story of my stroke comes out. If at any point in communicating with someone my baggage gets too heavy, then we minimize time wasted by not progressing further. I highly recommend this strategy to anyone who is swimming around in the online dating pool. We have all had experiences with people who misrepresent themselves online. Are these people hoping that their interactions do not progress enough to the point where someone will see them as they really are? I thought that was kind of the point. Don’t we all want someone special to see us as we really are and love us anyway? I do. I have been rejected for the reasons listed in my subtitle as well as “normal” things that get in the way. I don’t care. The truth has set me free.
Origin of “…Truth Shall Set You Free”
There are many books in the Bible, and this quote can be found in the Book of John, chapter 8, verse 32. When read in the context of the original passage, readers can more easily understand how truth equals freedom:
To the Jews who had believed him, Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know truth, and the truth will set you free. They answered him, “We are Abraham’s descendants and have never been slaves of anyone. How can you say that we shall be set free? Jesus replied, “I tell you the truth, everyone who sins is a slave to sin. Now a slave has no permanent place in the family, but a son belongs to it forever. So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed. Bible: New International Version (1984)
In essence, all those who sin are slaves. Accepting God’s word, Jesus as his son, and the teachings of Christianity means accepting the truth; once a believer then freedom from sin and sinful ways naturally follows.