The Creepy Dimension to my Allure
There was more than one instance of a man telling me he thought I was more desirable because I am disabled. I can understand how the fact that I only have a minor disability which makes it impossible to actually run might be attractive, but the idea of being perceived as totally helpless is plain creepy.
When I first started dating 3 years ago, I assumed that my disability might be an automatic deal breaker, and in some cases, I’m sure it was. But the fact that I am pretty goes a very long way in garnering attention in the superficial world of online dating.
I met someone 3 years ago online, and I’m sure my looks helped things progress with him. If he didn’t find me attractive, I wouldn’t have seen him again after the first date. We went out a few times, and it eventually turned into a purely physical relationship. He just told me this week that it was sexy making love to me because I am “helpless”. That is a figment of his imagination, but I suppose the mental component of a physical relationship counts for a lot.
Another man chatted up with me for a few weeks and when I revealed that I had a minor disability, he said that made him want me more. He said he had worked for a disability services organization years ago and it was the greatest gift that left a soft spot in his heart for handicapped people. It’s hard to tell if this is genuine or I’m just being played.
I have also encountered a few men who immensely enjoy being needed and helpful. My physical limitations create endless possibilities in this regard.
There are some very specific challenges that are definitely plain sexy as described here:
I don’t think being disabled will per se draw men into my life. If it does, I am on the lookout for the creep dimension.
Thank you for reading :)