Some Stories About Moms
For those of us who are lucky enough to still have our moms around, our relationship with our mother speaks volumes about our character, in my opinion. When I make a new acquaintance, I like to inquire about this. The answer often sheds light on not just our character, but our lifestyle, as well.
I once dated a man very briefly who didn’t want to continue to see me in part because his parents were gone, and I am still involved in my parent’s lives. Another area where our lifestyles didn’t match was that I have grown children, and he had none. Maybe he just didn’t like me, but he did have a point with regard to our lifestyles being very different.
I meet many men in my age group who still have one or both parents. I am 56, and am one of a rare few who still have both of my parents.
Just last week I came in contact with three stories about men my age and their mothers. Rich was 64 and his 91 year old mother lives with him and his family. His Dad had died 50 years ago from MS. Rich is thrilled that he gets to sit down to dinner with his mother six nights a week.
Andrew’s mother is 82 and just had her hip replaced. She still works as an executive assistant to a high school principal. She survived the loss of her high school sweetheart when her husband died suddenly of a heart attack at age 44, 40 years ago. She also lost two sisters and a brother to cancer. She still has one sister. All six of her children have lived past the 50 year mark.
Jeff told me he still has his mother at age 55. I wondered if she lives alone at 89. He told me she has a lot of people around on “staff”.
I’m taking my mother to a destination spa this week for Mother’s Day. I want to celebrate the fact that she is still with us and relatively well after being diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer at age 83. She did 20 rounds of chemo, lost her hair and a lot of weight, had major surgery, and is now in remission at 84.
Someday my children will tell the story about how their mom survived a serious stroke while she was pregnant, gave birth while she was still hemiplegic and raised them with a disability.
If you have your mom, don’t forget to celebrate all she has survived.