My meditation app suggested I go through the day and notice whenever I am thinking about the past or the future as opposed to the present moment. It was astounding to me how many times my mind wandered away from the now in the course of one day.
I have this habit of rehashing what went wrong in my longest relationship. It so happens to be with my husband who moved out four years ago. There is no point in trying to figure this out and doing so only leads to sad and angry feelings.
I can also spend considerable time worrying about my future and where I am going to live and with whom. My adult sons live with me now, but I know this won’t last forever. There is little benefit to this line of thinking, as well.
The fortunate part of this exercise is that when we are conscious we are drifting back or forward in time, it instantly brings us back to the present allowing us to focus on what is in front of us. We may drift back and forth a few times, but being aware of it will keep us anchored in the present moment more than not.
This practice will be invaluable in making the most of our time with our loved ones this holiday season; not buying them more stuff.
Stay present. It truly is the gift that keeps on giving.