Jilted

A Special Kind of Rejection

I had never seen him so angry in the 36 years I had known him. I set a date with my husband weeks in advance of my friend’s charity event. I was ready to go on the date, but when my husband got home from work, he looked at me with a venomous look and said, “I’m not going with you.”

“Why not?”

“I think you know.”

I suspected he might have been angry because I texted his girlfriend. He had introduced me to her before they became romantically involved as his “friend”. We exchanged numbers on this friendly weekend together.

Eight months after I met “Elaine”, my husband told me we were going to have an open marriage because he thought it might help him improve things between us. We had been drifting apart very seriously for years. This was supposed to be a last ditch effort. I told him I didn’t agree with his plan. His response was “I’m going to do it anyway.” I knew it didn’t matter if I opposed his idea.

Within a week he was in bed with this “friend” two thousand miles away in another state. He believed he had my permission based on the way he coerced me into agreeing to it. I was very angry that he seemed to have had a plan in mind with this woman before he proposed the open marriage while vehemently denying that he “had anyone in mind.”. I suspect there had…