Is This Even Possible?
We all are on a roller coaster ride called life. Through the highs and the lows we know we are better if we keep a positive attitude about it all. Why then do we usually slip into negative thinking?
My mother is a notorious worrier with a special penchant for thinking of every negative thing that can happen. I don’t blame her, really, she has had more to worry about me over the years than she should including a close call with death when I was 35 years old.
That brush with death instilled in me a profound and constant appreciation for every day I am given and the return to living life as fully as I am able.
My mother came to see me in the hospital last week following an elective abdominoplasty to repair an abdominal diastasis. I could have lived the rest of my life with this condition, but chose instead to have it repaired while I am still relatively young. It was an invasive procedure that definitely came with some risks of bad outcomes. I opted to focus on the positive results which were the facts that I would look and feel better when I recovered, in addition to being more stable on my feet with a stronger core. Mom was worried about how I would manage my recovery because of the complications of my disability and the fact that my husband moved out 3 years ago. I considered these facts, too, but did not let myself stay focused on them for too long. I knew I had plans in place to deal with the challenges.
My brother had suggested to mom at one point to “only think positive thoughts”. She told me this, and it sounded great. I told her that that was what I was doing, and it was mostly true. It struck me that this seems to be counter to our normal way of thinking. We seem to get stuck at the bottom of the roller coaster and forget that there is always another climb.
Try only thinking positive thoughts. We choose what we think about.
Thank you for reading :)