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I Was Much Nicer To My Husband’s Girlfriend on Christmas Eve This Year
This is how I did it…
The day before Christmas Eve, my estranged husband texted me and asked if I could please try really hard to be nice to his girlfriend at his brother’s party that night. The message came amid my much calmer approach to this awkward gathering than I’d had the year before when I was perhaps a little rude. Unlike last year, I was not scheming to make anyone more uncomfortable than necessary.
Of course I was insulted that he would imply I had been anything but nice the year before. Rather than text back, I called him and asked what he meant. He recounted the things I said and did last year that were definitely done to try to make her uncomfortable being at a party with her boyfriend’s wife. I glared at her. I told them both they made such a cute couple.
I like to think I am a different person than I was a year ago. I know I have accepted that my husband is very much involved with someone else a year later.
I told him I would try, but was insulted he called me mean. I know my daily meditation practice has made me a more peaceful person who can stay in the moment.
I felt I had been pigeonholed as being a mean person, so no matter how I looked at her or whatever I said it would be construed as…
