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I Like to Kiss and Tell

I do it for different reasons

Victoria Ponte
2 min readJan 26, 2020

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The meaning of the term “kiss and tell” from phrases.org:

Publicly retell of one’s sexual exploits, often with the aim of revenge or monetary gain.

I don’t tell stories of sexual exploits publicly. Nor do I do it for revenge or monetary gain. I’m not sleeping with celebrities or other public figures whom I could exploit. But I must confess to occasionally confiding in close friends about sex. Sometimes it’s fun to compare notes. It’s all done in good fun.

I know it’s a bit unseemly to tell my friends about my sex life, but I also know they are fascinated to hear I have recovered this part of my life that was once lost when I had a stroke when I was 35 and pregnant. I’ll admit to bragging sometimes. I won’t share too many details as I know I should protect the privacy of others, even if they aren’t public figures.

I also prefer to stick to stories about the good stuff rather than the disappointments. I always consider how I would feel if the tables were turned. If the story isn’t flattering to the person I’m talking about, I usually keep it to myself.

I only tell tales to maybe one or two close confidantes. I know they are so far removed from anyone I might talk about the stories are unlikely to make their way back to the subjects. I violate a common sense of propriety when I do this because it fosters a deeper connection with my friends. We share a sense of gratitude that I was able to remain sex positive following a devastating injury.

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Victoria Ponte
Victoria Ponte

Written by Victoria Ponte

Writing to share wonder, gratitude and a sense of humor. Poetry, life lessons, survivor https://www.youtube.com/@victoriaponteagain?sub_confirmation=1

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