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Horny, Lonely, Crippled
Different Reasons For Having Casual Sex
Many believe sex is better with someone you know and/or love. Despite this, there is still lots of casual hooking up going on. People have various reasons for engaging in this behavior that can also lead to hurt feelings, depression, shame, unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
Some are simply horny and don’t want to be in a committed relationship. Loneliness can also lead people to casual hookups which may bring temporary relief from their sense of isolation. Perhaps oddly, I occasionally hook up with someone not because I’m horny or lonely, but because I am crippled and doing so makes me feel alive and grateful I can still do it.
I was left totally paralyzed on my left side from a stroke during pregnancy when I was 35. I didn’t have sex for the next five years until my husband recovered enough from the trauma and my depression lifted enough for me to become interested again. I thought having sex was life affirming and having survived a life threatening ordeal I thought I should be having lots of it.
Unfortunately my husband didn’t share my enthusiasm. We drifted.
When he thought opening our marriage might help, I reluctantly went along with it because I was willing to do whatever it took to keep the marriage intact. We…
