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He Didn’t Say

Tips for better communication in relationships

I can’t give you my recipe for a successful marriage because I don’t have one. My husband moved to another state four years ago and is involved with another woman. What I can do is give you advice about how to not go wrong in terms of communication in your relationship based on my experience at failure.

Perhaps the simplest thing you can do as far as communication in a relationship is to keep your messages kind. It sounds simple, but it is easy to minimize how important this is.

The only time I heard my husband say I was beautiful in 36 years was when he concurred with someone else’s opinion. When I told him a friend I’d met in the supermarket parking lot told me I looked beautiful, he said “You are beautiful.” Most women really like to hear kind words like this. I don’t know why my husband never said it.

We need to ask for what we want and clearly communicate those needs. We need to be heard and also hear what our partner says. One of the biggest predictors of divorce according to many experts is the practice of stonewalling.

Wikipedia defines stonewalling as a refusal to communicate or cooperate. Such behaviour occurs in situations such as marriage guidance counseling, diplomatic negotiations, politics and legal cases.[1] Body language may…