How our last family vacation showed me it was truly the end
It was a place we would spend hundreds, if not thousands, on a family vacation for 4. My husband had openly begun an affair with a woman in Colorado. I was supposedly going along with the open marriage arrangement because I was willing to do whatever it took to make the 28-year marriage to a man I met as a teenager work.
Six years later, I can clearly see the mistakes we made. If your spouse wants to date someone else, there is no reason to hang on. …
The memories become muddy after a life-altering event
My son asked me if I remember the last time I rode a bike. He had bought a new steering wheel for his car and I was pretending to steer it using 2 hands. I caught myself remembering I haven’t used 2 hands to steer a car in 22 years. My left hand is too unreliable to use for driving a car.
I was disabled by a severe stroke at age 35, while I was 6 months pregnant with the son who bought the steering wheel. He never knew me as an able-bodied person.
I thought hard about when I…
A Beautiful April Afternoon
My deck was covered with snow and dog shit for most of the winter of 2020–2021. When the snow melted, it left only the dog shit that slowly dried in the sun as it emerged from winter’s darkness.
We could have a small birthday party out on the deck yesterday for my father, who turned 88 on April 6th, my son who turned 22 on April 3rd, my older son who turns 24 on April 13th, and for me who will turn 58 on April 25th.
This gathering was in stark contrast to how things felt last April, which was…
Victoria Ponte
Young stroke survivor, mother, champion equestrian, tambourine player, storyteller, https://www.victoriaponte.com amazon.com/author/victoriaponte
